Parenting and Family Education

Archive for August, 2009

You might be dreaming of the perfect person to date, or thinking of a life partner. Christian dating services can help such Christian singles who want to meet their Christian mate online. And if you are searching for the best Christian dating services, either online or offline, then we are here with some very useful tips which may help you.
Many Christian personals and dating websites offer many services like email, instant messaging, discussion boards, and mingling areas, or you may just be searching for pen pals, seniors, or friends.
Always keep this in mind if you are searching for traditional religious Christian dating services or specialty agencies like Catholic, Chinese, Hispanic or teen dating services – these may be somewhat difficult to search; you are more likely to search for these dating services, agencies or networks in larger cities like New York City, Chicago, Los Angeles and Seattle. Once you have done your research locally, you can start researching free and paid Christian dating sites or matchmaking sites online. It is quite possible that a large general dating service may have more Christian members than a smaller Christian dating service.
Some of the online Christian Dating Services are run by both Christians and non Christians; this may or may not matter to you.  Christian dating services can help you find many different types of Christian singles such as Christian seniors, Christian single parents, and black single Christians. If you are an adolescent searching for single teens, a good number of dating services request that your age should not be less than 18 years old. There is a number of Christian dating services on the Internet having millions of users registered to them for you to find a perfect match.
When meeting a person through online dating, you always have to be very careful. Always meet your online date in a public place and make sure your nearest friend has knowledge about this meeting.  It is also a good idea to take a mobile phone. If you are unable to find a desirable Christian Dating Services then you must go through a reputable general dating service. There you can state that you are looking for a good Christian man, woman, or other specifics like racial, cultural group, orthodox, Catholic, etc.; most of the responsible members of these dating services are Christians.
If you apply yourself every day to this task at hand, you should be capable to line up the right dating possibilities fast. Whether you are searching for a more informal relationship, or something more serious, now is the time to initiate searching; check out some Christian dating websites today. Keep in mind that Christian dating services observe people through their websites and are more ready to lend a hand to single Christians in the long run.

Now that ADHD behavioral therapy has finally become a hot topic in the ADHD jungle , let me share with you three of the most epic parenting tips ever. Before we get into that, I want to point out that one of leading researchers in this, Gregory Fabiano ,has been given the White House’s Presidential Early Career Award for Scientists and Engineers. His work clearly shows that ADHD behavioural therapy is just as effective as ADHD medication with drugs. When you get into ADHD behavioural therapy, you learn all sorts of parenting tips and strategies and you can start living again!

First Parenting Tip

Don’t be manipulated!. You know the scene. Either your kid throws a tantrum, sulks or whines to get what he wants. Once you give in here, it will be very difficult to get the situation under control again. Even very young kids between one to two years start experimenting and can see what works and if it works, they will keep at it and just turn up the volume in every sense of the word. So instead of engaging in a power struggle which can be exhausting, try pointing out a few home truths to your child. Explain what behaviour you want and whining or sulking is not going to work at all – ever. Stick to that and never give in because that is when the child will spot the weak link in your armour.

Second Parenting Tip

Any treat, present, money or computer time has to be earned and well in advance too. If you have a system of rewards and consequences this is quite easy to implement. Kids know by now what good behaviour is. Depending on your family situation, this can range from doing homework without an attitude, completing household jobs, punctuality at school and so on.

Third Parenting Tip

Use time-out. This has the effect of calming both parties down when there is conflict, argument or a downright refusal to do something. I know some parents who actually do the time-out themselves and just go to another room. Some parents prefer to make the child sit quietly and when they are calm, they can proceed. If you do not use time-out, the anger increases and this only prolongs the argument. If both parent and child are calm, then they have a better chance of reaching an agreement or getting through an explanation about what the bad behaviour is and what could be the consequences.

These are just the beginning in learning parenting skills or ADHD behavioural therapy. The sooner you learn these,the more successful you will be in remaining in control in your own home. These are the skills you can learn from ADHD behavioural therapy. No ADHD drugs can teach your child. Very soon, your child will be an adult and now is the time to give him or her a chance to develop as a responsible adult.

Nobody ever said single parenting is easy. As parents, we all learn with time. However, too often, the pressure of single parenting can be so overwhelming that it’s easy to make mistakes.

Are you one of these single parents? Learn how you can avoid being one:

The Emotional Patient

Most single parents try to be a good friend to their children, which is a good thing. However, a problem arises when single dads or moms see their children as a source of emotional support. Children of single parents need stability and security. A divorce or the death of a parent can be a particularly traumatic experience for them.

No matter how mature or old your children are, avoid making them your confidante on issues such as how much money you have or what a lousy day you had. Don’t rob them of their time to be children. It is unfair to burden them with issues that are difficult for them to handle. If you need to speak to someone, speak to your friends or a counselor.

The Guilt Tripper

As a single parent, it is easy to feel guilty about many things. Not being around when your children need you, not being able to help them with their homework, and so on. The danger with feeling guilty all the time is that some single parents tend to develop a lower self esteem that they may pass on to the children. Don’t be hard on yourself. Learn to take the ups and downs in your stride. And, by all means, don’t try to bolster your self-image by fishing for compliments about what kind of parent you are.

The Permissive Parent

Children need as much love and attention as you can give them. However, some single parents make the mistake of being too permissive and never correct their children when it’s necessary.

Research has shown that the children brought up in overly permissive parenting styles may develop behavioral problems because they do not easily accept responsibility.

Be firm and know where to draw the line. Shower your children with affection but set clear rules and limits. This, of course, does not mean being harsh or too authoritarian. Perfect the art of saying “I love you but a NO means a NO.”

The Martyr

Single parenting can be such an overwhelming experience that many parents simply forget to take care of themselves. With all the effort and sacrifice required to handle regular tasks such as meals and activities, it’s no surprise that many single parents get burned out. Don’t be a martyr. Your children require your time and energy and the only way to sustain it is by allotting some time for yourself.

Pamper yourself from time to time, be it writing in your journal, listening to music, or working out in the gym. Arrange for a babysitter or a trusted friend to look after your children when you are away. Look at it not just as time goofing off, but very important re-charging time so you can get back to the difficult job of being a great dad.